Category Archives: To Think

Saving a Marriage From Divorce

Can a marriage be saved from the brink of divorce? What would that even look like? I’ve collected stories and advice for couples hoping to save their marriage from divorce. When someone signs up for my email list, they get a little welcome email which asks them to respond back stating something they are currently struggling with in their marriage. I get quite a few of these emails each week. At first I was surprised to find how many of these emails expressed marriages in dire straights- on the brink of divorce, dealing with things like infidelity, addiction, abuse, etc.… Read More

Do I Need My Anger?

Recently it was my choice to pick our monthly book for my book club. I chose Loving What Is. Shocker I know. Not everyone loved it, which is totally fine because truth be told, I don’t love the writing style and I find the tone a little pandering. BUT the ideas in it are golden. Golden I tell you! I can’t tell you how much this book has helped me (I mean, I’ve tried . . . and tried). But anyway, in our conversation during this book club, several people took issue with the book because wouldn’t loving what is… Read More

Using The Color Code Personality Test to Understand Your Spouse

I first encountered the Color Code personality test in high school at a church camp. After we each took the test, we made little felt people in our color and made them into necklaces to wear all week in an attempt to get to know each other and serve each other better. Sometimes I wish everyone I meet would wear these little colored necklaces so I would better be able to tell what their strengths, limitations and most importantly, motivations are. Understanding each other’s personalities and motivations help any relationship, but especially a marriage! Megan Christensen is here today to… Read More

The Very First Step Toward Your Happy Marriage

A happy marriage. We all want it. Sometimes its there in abundance and sometimes it feels so darn elusive that we’ll never have it. Why is that? Before we can understand how to have a happy marriage, we have to understand a few key things about happiness itself. Because sadly, we humans are notoriously TERRIBLE at understanding what makes us happy and what doesn’t. We become fixated, convinced that happiness lies juuuust ahead of that promotion or that 20 pounds we want to lose or when we find our soul mate. We’re convinced. BUT studies show over and over that… Read More

4 Ways I Unintentionally Harm My Relationship: A Review of Jennifer Finlayson-Fife’s Relationship Course

Before we dive in here I want to let you, my readers know how much I value you. I try to listen to your emails and comments and let your ideas dictate my post topics. And I don’t try to sell you junk. Although, I could. Last week I was offered $200 to promote an electric razor in a post. These opportunities come frequently- whether its a mattress or pizza rolls or various other products. But I don’t pitch those products in my posts because I know it wouldn’t bring you, my readers any value whatsoever and I care about valuing the… Read More