Month: May 2018

Why Are You Married? (A Helpful Mindset For When You Forget)

Yesterday I was cooking with my kids. As my daughter spilled milk all over the table and the floor (and did in fact, cry over it), and my son flung hamburger meat all over the counter while “stirring” it for me, I paused and thought, “Why am I doing this? This would be easier without them.” Upon reflection, I remembered that I want my kids to love cooking. I want my kids to eat dinner and helping with cooking helps (or at least that’s what people keep telling me . . .). I want my kids to eventually be able… Read More

Are You Focusing on Your Spouse’s Attributes or Flaws? (how to flip the switch)

My marriage has undoubtedly improved since starting this blog. In so, so many ways. I can remember living and reacting from a place of fear before where now I have peace. Peace gives room for love. I’m coming closer and closer to loving Rich unconditionally - I can definitely feel that shift. I’ve been trying to break down exactly WHAT has changed or what mindsets have helped me the most. Certainly, I have had countless light-bulb moments while reading, researching, writing and thinking about marriage. But what is it exactly that created the shift from conditional love to unconditional love?… Read More

How to Help Your Addicted Spouse

A few weeks ago I received an email from a reader asking if he could write a guest post for my site for spouses married to an addict. Having battled an opiate addiction himself, he’s out to help other couples on the journey he and his wife have gone through. He co-created RecoveryHelp to help people with substance abuse and their families. I’m so grateful he reached out to me and have happily posted his article below. Thanks Caleb!   How to Help Your Addicted Spouse Intimate relationships shared with our loved ones ought to be safe havens-places to seek… Read More