Episode 31: The Value of Fun (“We Are Young”)

Often when marriage problems rear their head, we think we have to be very serious about them. But much of the time, what we need is not more seriousness in our relationship, what we need is MORE FUN! Fun provides some BIG deposits in the emotional bank account of our relationships. In this episode, we talk about how fun looks different in every stage of marriage as we give therapy to the song, “We Are Young.”  Which naturally, Rich changes to “We are fun.”  🙂 Enjoy! Show Notes Come to our marriage retreat! Jan 24-25 on beautiful Diamond Lake, WA!… Read More

Episode 30: Best of Season 1 Show Notes

We’re back baby! You can listen to first episode of season 2 of the Marriage Theraoke podcast right here folks (just press that green arrow down there, or listen in any podcast player of your choice). For this episode, Rich and I both selected three of our favorite moments from Season 1 and we share them with you in the episode. If you are a first time listener, this is the perfect introduction. If you are a long time listener, this is a fun walk down memory lane/ reminder of solid relationship advice. We’ve got interviews, re-written love songs and… Read More

The EPIDEMIC of Negative Emotion Intolerance (and how it’s wreaking havoc on your relationship)

Negative Emotion Intolerance. Click through to read how the epidemic is affecting your relationship and how to become immune!

In preparation for my shiny new blog plan (month long themes complete with corresponding love experiments, social media posts and podcast episodes), I surveyed you, my readers asking for what you are currently struggling with most in your marriages right now. Responses ranged all over the gamut from stress with in-laws to finances to communication. But a common theme stood out among the responses: dealing with negative emotion. Most of the responses talked about dealing with their spouse’s negative emotions: Partner is frequently stressed and taking it out on others Partner is depressed and emotionally unavailable Partner gets upset when… Read More

Help Me Help You

It’s been so long since I’ve written a blog post that I literally forgot how to log in . . . yikes. Hello! This summer we’ve been super busy moving and vacationing that we haven’t had much mental energy for blogging and podcasting. BUT school has started, routines are forming and we’re back baby! The plan is to have a different marriage topic each month to delve into. Each topic will come with a new love experiment. Each week, there will be a new blog post, email and social media posts about the topic. And each month we’ll do 1-2… Read More

Episode 29: Can You Change Your Partner? (“Take Me or Leave Me”) Featuring Janessa Zech

can you change your partner

“Take me as I am, baby, or leave me.” Can you change your partner? Can you even ask your partner to change? Marriage Theraoke goes Broadway with the song, “Take Me or Leave Me” from Rent. We a little bit of a hard time nailing down a specific topic for this song because the song encapsulates so many common relationship problems. The idea of “take me or leave me” has Maureen and Joanne (the couple in the song) both stuck trying to change each other but unwilling to change themselves. Since we can’t expect to change our partner, we should… Read More