“96% of the time, you can predict the outcome of a conversation based on the first three minutes of the interaction.”
If a conversation starts with contempt, it will end with contempt. This is why it is so crucial to start difficult conversations lovingly. Nothing will get solved if you try to talk about difficult subjects when you’re full of anger.
This is why companionship inventory is so so useful. Start with prayer together, then compliments, THEN difficult issues. If you start the conversation with love, you’ll be WAY more likely to end it with love.