10 Lessons I’ve Learned (the hard way) in 10 Years of Marriage

10 years. Rich and I have been married 10 years! That’s the same amount of time it took Einstein to come up with E=mc2. That’s how long it took Julia Child to write Mastering the Art of French Cooking. That’s how long it took to create the Brooklyn Bridge. And that’s how long psychology professor John Hayes says it takes to become an expert at something. How fantastic. On this momentous occasion (and since I am now a marriage expert!), I thought I would take it upon myself  to bestow upon you 10 years worth of my hard-earned marital wisdom. Or rather,… Read More

42 Love Letter Prompts

The best collection of love letter prompts on the web.  42 love letter prompts to be exact. I mentioned in my last post Four Ways To Emotionally Connect With Your Spouse While You’re Apart that Rich is currently in Brazil and we are apart for the month.  While we’re away for extended periods of time like this, Rich came up with the great idea to write each other love letters. Since we find ourselves writing quite a few of these, we ran out of love letter prompts fairly quickly and were unsatisfied with the love letter ideas we found online (C’mon… Read More

Saving a Marriage From Divorce

Can a marriage be saved from the brink of divorce? What would that even look like? I’ve collected stories and advice for couples hoping to save their marriage from divorce. When someone signs up for my email list, they get a little welcome email which asks them to respond back stating something they are currently struggling with in their marriage. I get quite a few of these emails each week. At first I was surprised to find how many of these emails expressed marriages in dire straights- on the brink of divorce, dealing with things like infidelity, addiction, abuse, etc.… Read More

Do I Need My Anger?

Recently it was my choice to pick our monthly book for my book club. I chose Loving What Is. Shocker I know. Not everyone loved it, which is totally fine because truth be told,  I don’t love the writing style and I find the tone a little pandering. BUT the ideas in it are golden. Golden I tell you! I can’t tell you how much this book has helped me (I mean, I’ve tried . . . and tried). But anyway, in our conversation during this book club, several people took issue with the book because wouldn’t loving what is… Read More

The Very First Step Toward Your Happy Marriage

A happy marriage. We all want it. Sometimes its there in abundance and sometimes it feels so darn elusive that we’ll never have it. Why is that? Before we can understand how to have a happy marriage, we have to understand a few key things about happiness itself. Because sadly, we humans are notoriously TERRIBLE at understanding what makes us happy and what doesn’t. We become fixated, convinced that happiness lies juuuust ahead of that promotion or that 20 pounds we want to lose or when we find our soul mate. We’re convinced. BUT studies show over and over that… Read More