Being a jerkface in your marriage is a clear no-no, but how about being overly accommodating?

Slightly less so, however, if done with regularity, consistent OVER accommodation becomes a problem, namely we don’t own up to our desires and often become resentful.

This week, we give therapy to the song “Back for Good” by Take That as we discuss the “I’ll do anything for you” mentality.

As always, Rich sings his version of this song into more healthy (slightly less desperate) waters.

Enjoy!

 

Here are Rich’s much improved lyrics:

I guess, now it’s time. For bringing this up,
Thing aren’t fine

Got a history of being a door mat
Feels like footprint mark still on my back and butt
(Not really – that’s a metaphor)

Got an issue with emotions
Conflict’s really not my scene

But I believe that, I’m gonna tell you how I feel now

Whatever I said, whatever I did
Accommodating
I don’t want that, that’s not good
(that’s not good, that’s not good)

I’ll tell you what’s up
I’m not puffing up
Hope will see that
I will be more understood
(Understood, understood)

I WANT to be under stood…

Unaware, for a long time
I figured out what my need are
To help me feel good…

I’ve thought through this in my mind
(in my mind)
And I am sure my desires…
Come. from. the. best. in. me.

There’ll be a bit of accommodation
It-may-be hard, but can’t you see
You will find
This will be
Good for both you and meeeee

Whatever I say, whatever I did’s
Accommodating
I don’t want that, that’s not good
(that’s not good, that’s not good)

I’ll tell you what’s up
I’m not puffing up
Hope will see that
I will be more understood
(Understood, understood)

I’ll just leave this right here: