Episode 2: Transactional Love (As Long As You Love Me) Show Notes

Marriage podcast transactional love

“I got up with the baby twice last night, it’s your turn to get up with the kids this morning.”  “You can go to girls night if you let me go golfing on Saturday.” “You haven’t earned cuddle time, when was the last time you complimented me?” Treating our marriage like a transaction is a super common mentality to slip into (especially when you have kids and there are so many undesirable tasks!) However, focusing on what is deserved or earned and with holding love or praise if and when our spouse doesn’t measure up is 1. exhausting 2. putting… Read More

Episode 1: Common Ground (Breakfast at Tiffany’s) Show Notes

IIIIIIITTTTTTTTSSSSSSS LAUNCH DAY!! That’s right, today is the day! We are launching our new podcast Marriage Theraoke! The podcast where we take popular love songs and give them the relationship therapy they need. In episode one, we’re are therapizing (can you tell I’m not a real therapist??) the popular 90s hit single Breakfast at Tiffany’s where the only thing the couple can remember having in common is liking the movie Breakfast at Tiffany’s. In this episode, we sit this song down and examine the question, how much do you really NEED to have in common to make a relationship work??… Read More

The Ultimate Anxiety-Reducing Tool Kit: All the best books, podcasts and apps for self-soothing

The Ultimate Anxiety-Reducing Tool Kit: All the best books, podcasts and apps for self soothing. Click through to see more of my favorite de-stressing resources.

This post contains affiliate links. Perhaps from the title of this post you are thinking I am going to be talking about vacations, pedicures or my favorite cereal. I’m not (but it’s Ohs if you’re wondering). I’m not talking about short-term emotional numbing indulgences that parade themselves around as self-care. Rather, I’m talking about long-term solutions to deal with anxiety in a healthy, productive way. I’m talking about how to form the habit of regulating your anxiety, dealing with negative emotions and showing up as the best and most loving version of yourself despite what stressors life throws at you.… Read More

Are You Controlling Your Reactions or Are Your Reactions Controlling You?

How your emotional reactivity is limiting your relationship. Click through to find out how.

I was listening to this podcast this week, where life coach Jody Moore is coaching a woman who is frustrated with all the demands her husband makes of her. He thrives on order and structure and they devised a family schedule that should provide order and structure- when the kids get home from school, they do their homework, practice their instruments and complete their chores. The family tries to have dinner at the same time every night so they can get the kids in bed on time so everyone is well-rested, well-adjusted and happy. Sounds great. Sounds like a good plan.… Read More

Want to Learn How to Self-Soothe in a Healthy, Productive Way? Try this.

Self-soothing: What is the most helpful tool to self-soothe? Click through to read all about it.

A few weeks ago during our weekly check in, Rich and I got into a disagreement. I was getting frustrated because HE was getting frustrated. He was getting frustrated because I was getting frustrated. And around and around we went. I struggle sometimes since I listen to so many self-help podcasts and read so many books, I have this really awesome, never annoying tendency to think I have the solution to everyone’s problems. Everyone really loves this about me and never finds it imposing at all . . . . Anyway, being the know-it-all that I am, I was trying… Read More