27 Stay At Home Dates You Can Do From Your Couch

Because most stay at home date ideas still require too much energy, here are 27 at home dates you can do from your couch. Here’s the truth: Rich and I are not very good about date nights. I know I know, before you vote me off the island of marriage bloggers (who seem to be unanimously pro-date nights), let me explain. Frequently mid-week I think to myself, “Oh we should do a date night this Friday night!”  Cue lofty imaginings of us playing tennis or going for a hike or a bike ride or concert or maybe ballroom dancing together. Wouldn’t that… Read More

Quality Time Love Language Guide

Quality time love language | 5 Love Languages | Gary Chapman

Five keys to speaking the love language of quality time. I hope I’ve gotten the message across clearly in this blog that I am no marriage expert. I am a FAR cry from a perfect spouse and find it very difficult to put most of what I learn from researching these articles into practice. You said it kid. BUT. There is one area where I am becoming quite an expert and that is how I feel loved. I’m able to articulate how I want Rich to treat me to make me feel the most love. Knowing this is actually a… Read More

Quality Time Love Language Challenge

The perfect quality time love language experiment! Each night this week, take 10 minutes to connect and talk to each other distraction free! Click through for more details!

Introducing our quality time love experiment for the month- connecting with your spouse for 10 minutes at the end of every day. Alright, it’s almost April and that means its time to introduce our Marriage Laboratory Experiment of the Month (MLEM if you like- you can remember it because it sounds like phlem)! This year all our experiments are based on Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages book and February will be all about . .. . . . QUALITY TIME! Here’s the experiment explained scientific method style: PROBLEM: We’re so BUSY!  We forget to prioritize our most important relationship. Our… Read More

Setting Boundaries in Marriage: What Does that Look Like?

Setting healthy boundaries in marriage? How do you do that? What does that feel like? Click through to read more.

What does setting healthy boundaries in marriage look like? We’re often good at getting mad or resentfully accommodating, but usually not so good at setting healthy boundaries. Boundaries. That is a topic I’ve never really addressed on the blog because in all honesty I don’t really know how to think about them. Oh I know how to lay down my desires to get what I want, but I’ve never really had a firm grasp on what setting healthy boundaries looks like exactly. That is, until I’ve spent a lot of time researching it for my upcoming book about mixed-faith marriages (sign… Read More

Spiritual Sunday: Is God Mad at Me?

Is God Mad at Me?

In our church we talk a lot about obedience. This is for good reason, but I think being so obedience-focused comes with certain risks. One of these risks is that we misunderstand the reason behind obedience. Not understanding the reason behind rules will make anyone resentful, annoyed and reluctant toward the rules. As any parent can tell you, if you order a child to do something (“Don’t touch that! Clean your room!”) without making sure the child understands the why, what you get is an annoyed, reluctant child. Or a child who only obeys to appease and avoid punishment. But… Read More