Become Your Ideal Self Today (and Become Your Ideal Spouse in the Process)

Imagine you’ve died (sorry to be the one to break the news, but it will happen to each of us eventually). You’re at your own funeral. You’re listening to your own eulogy. What is being said? What is remembered of you? Who did you help? What are your greatest accomplishments? What were you proudest of? This month, we’re talking all about how to develop a clear sense of self. What that means and why its important (to you and your marriage) How creating the right value system can get you there. How meditation and affirmations can get you there. Today… Read More

Want to Improve Your Marriage? Try Meditation: A LOVE EXPERIMENT

Breathe.  I am worthy of love and belonging. Breathe. I am imperfect and that’s ok. Breathe. I am enough. Ahhh, don’t you feel better after reading that? I do. That’s why I like to start my day this way- a few minutes of meditation and some affirmations. This month in the laboratory, we’re talking all about how to develop a clear sense of self. The last two weeks we discussed mostly how to get your mind and values in the right place. But this week, I wanted to provide you with a takeaway that is more actionable. That’s right folks,… Read More

How Mature is your Value System? (and how your values might be ruining your relationship)

Do you feel stuck in your marriage? Do you feel like you can’t get along with each other? Do you feel like your partner doesn’t respect you?  Normally, when we feel these things in marriage we think what we need is a better CONNECTION to each other. And sometimes that is true. But often times, the root of the problem boils down to a lack of emotional maturity in one or both partners. And since you can only control YOUR emotional maturity, we’re going to focus on that. Specifically today we’re going to be talking all about values. This month… Read More

What is a Clear Sense of Self and Why We Should Care?

How well do you know yourself? What are your core values and beliefs? How do you deal with criticism and failure? How well do you know your strengths and weaknesses? What does your ideal self look like? How close are you to becoming that person? Welcome lab mates to the YEAR OF THE SELF! If you’ll remember from this post, we’re devoting the entire year here at Marriage Laboratory to self-improvement, because truly the FOUNDATION of a strong, healthy marriage requires emotionally maturity (which starts with a clear sense of self). This month’s posts will all be devoted to the… Read More

The Very Best Gift to Give and to Receive

A dear friend of mine’s husband was recently diagnosed with brain cancer. The terminal kind. The life-changing your-time-together-now-has-a-deadline kind. I found myself desperately racking my brain for how to best help her. Clean her house? Watch her kids? Pray? Yes, yes and yes, but would be the MOST meaningful gift to offer? Also, when I see my husband going through a rough patch, I’ve often asked myself, “How can I be of best service to him here? What can I say? What can I do?” As fellow humans, we all at some point come upon hard times. Eventually, we all… Read More