Last week we talked about confronting our own weaknesses and imperfections. But what about those weaknesses and imperfections that we don’t even know exist? Our own blind spots? How do we confront those? Enter shadow work. Jana Spangler is going to expertly walk us through some clues we have into the parts of ourselves we’re not always aware of that are holding us and our marriages back. We’re giving some therapy to the song “Baby One More Time” by Britney Spears as a jumping off point for our conversation. And guaranteed Rich’s acapella remake will both impress you and delight… Read More

What is the most important quality in a spouse? What were some of the qualities you were looking for in a partner when you were dating? Most of us were looking for someone who was attractive, smart, kind, funny. These are great qualities, but what is the MOST important? We are making the argument that the most important quality in a spouse is the ability to self-confront. Why? What does that look like? We are going to talk about that as we give some therapy to the song “Hold the Line” by Toto. Rich is going to make an important… Read More

Rich and Celeste take another break from poo-pooing love songs to celebrate ones that do it right! It’s The Good Ones Part 4. Rich talks about the importance of being present in the moment and taking a little time to stop and appreciate things as we listen to “Wonderful Tonight” by Eric Clapton. Celeste breaks out the Brene Brown buzzer again by talking about braving the wilderness in your relationship as we listen to “One Foot” by Walk the Moon. No other way to do it than putting one foot in front of the other and taking things one step… Read More

Every aspect of marriage has a high desire partner and a low desire partner. Whether it is how clean the house is, how strict the budget is or how often you have sex, one partner will desire those things more than the other. This Valentine’s week, we are focusing on the high desire partner in a sexual relationship. This can be a tricky position to be in because you can feel very stuck and powerless to improve your situation. Manipulating, coercing, and pressuring may get you what you want in the short term, but have lots of negative consequences in… Read More