How Mature is your Value System? (and how your values might be ruining your relationship)

Do you feel stuck in your marriage? Do you feel like you can’t get along with each other? Do you feel like your partner doesn’t respect you?  Normally, when we feel these things in marriage we think what we need is a better CONNECTION to each other. And sometimes that is true. But often times, the root of the problem boils down to a lack of emotional maturity in one or both partners. And since you can only control YOUR emotional maturity, we’re going to focus on that. Specifically today we’re going to be talking all about values. This month… Read More

What is a Clear Sense of Self and Why We Should Care?

How well do you know yourself? What are your core values and beliefs? How do you deal with criticism and failure? How well do you know your strengths and weaknesses? What does your ideal self look like? How close are you to becoming that person? Welcome lab mates to the YEAR OF THE SELF! If you’ll remember from this post, we’re devoting the entire year here at Marriage Laboratory to self-improvement, because truly the FOUNDATION of a strong, healthy marriage requires emotionally maturity (which starts with a clear sense of self). This month’s posts will all be devoted to the… Read More

The Very Best Gift to Give and to Receive

A dear friend of mine’s husband was recently diagnosed with brain cancer. The terminal kind. The life-changing your-time-together-now-has-a-deadline kind. I found myself desperately racking my brain for how to best help her. Clean her house? Watch her kids? Pray? Yes, yes and yes, but would be the MOST meaningful gift to offer? Also, when I see my husband going through a rough patch, I’ve often asked myself, “How can I be of best service to him here? What can I say? What can I do?” As fellow humans, we all at some point come upon hard times. Eventually, we all… Read More

42 Love Letter Prompts

The best collection of love letter prompts on the web.  42 love letter prompts to be exact. I mentioned in my last post Four Ways To Emotionally Connect With Your Spouse While You’re Apart that Rich is currently in Brazil and we are apart for the month.  While we’re away for extended periods of time like this, Rich came up with the great idea to write each other love letters. Since we find ourselves writing quite a few of these, we ran out of love letter prompts fairly quickly and were unsatisfied with the love letter ideas we found online (C’mon… Read More

5 Simple Ways to Improve your Relationship RIGHT NOW

By Sania Every couple experiences ups and downs in their journey. In order to have more ups than downs, you have to put some elbow grease into your relationship. In the end, it depends on YOU to make your relationship special and amazing. No one else can do it for you. Thankfully, there are many ways to improve your relationship. Here are five simple things you can start doing right now to improve your relationship: 1 Put Aside Smartphones These days it seems people are becoming more and more distracted and having a harder time focusing on their priorities. One… Read More