Episode 4: Bad Days (“Bad Day”) Show Notes

Partner's Bad Day. What to do when your partner is having a bad day? Listen to this podcast to find out!

What to do when your partner is having a bad day? Take it personally? Take responsibility for it? Cry in the fetal position until they are happy again? In today’s episode, we are talking about the do’s and don’ts of how to react to our partners’ bad days. (spoiler- taking it personally, taking responsibility for it and crying in the fetal position are all on the DON’T list 🙂 ) We are therapizing one hit wonder Daniel Powter’s one hit song, Bad Day and of course Rich sings a delightful and more emotionally healthy karaoke version of the song at… Read More

Episode 3: Conflict Resolution (Love is a Battlefield) with Nate Bagley Show Notes

Sometimes, when we are emotionally charged about something and we want to call our spouse’s attention to it, we resort to using anger as that attention-grabber. As a way of saying, “Hey! Listen up! This is important to me!” We use anger as our sword going into battle. Sadly, however, anger often has the exact opposite effect we are going for. When our partner senses anger directed toward them, they will either shut down and disengage or put their defenses up. They will become emotionally flooded and have a difficult time even processing what you are saying. When we come… Read More

What Do You Want to Believe About Your Spouse? (Yes, You Get to Choose)

What do you want to believe about your partner? You get to choose whether to believe in the best or the worst in them. Click through to read how to see the best.

There is a person in my life with some psychological issues. I mean, we all have psychological issues, but for this person, her issues often render her incapacitated, unable to complete even the simplest of tasks. I have spent a good deal of time trying to siphon out what of this behavior is her illness and what is just her personality. If her incapacities are just her personality- that makes me much less enthusiastic about helping her. I feel taken advantage of. I feel like she should do more for herself and rely less on others. But then when I… Read More

Episode 2: Transactional Love (As Long As You Love Me) Show Notes

Marriage podcast transactional love

“I got up with the baby twice last night, it’s your turn to get up with the kids this morning.”  “You can go to girls night if you let me go golfing on Saturday.” “You haven’t earned cuddle time, when was the last time you complimented me?” Treating our marriage like a transaction is a super common mentality to slip into (especially when you have kids and there are so many undesirable tasks!) However, focusing on what is deserved or earned and with holding love or praise if and when our spouse doesn’t measure up is 1. exhausting 2. putting… Read More

Episode 1: Common Ground (Breakfast at Tiffany’s) Show Notes

IIIIIIITTTTTTTTSSSSSSS LAUNCH DAY!! That’s right, today is the day! We are launching our new podcast Marriage Theraoke! The podcast where we take popular love songs and give them the relationship therapy they need. In episode one, we’re are therapizing (can you tell I’m not a real therapist??) the popular 90s hit single Breakfast at Tiffany’s where the only thing the couple can remember having in common is liking the movie Breakfast at Tiffany’s. In this episode, we sit this song down and examine the question, how much do you really NEED to have in common to make a relationship work??… Read More