Quality Time Love Language Challenge

Introducing our quality time love experiment for the month- connecting with your spouse for 10 minutes at the end of every day.

Alright, it’s almost April and that means its time to introduce our Marriage Laboratory Experiment of the Month (MLEM if you like- you can remember it because it sounds like phlem)!

This year all our experiments are based on Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages book and February will be all about . .. . . .


Here’s the experiment explained scientific method style:


  • We’re so BUSY!  We forget to prioritize our most important relationship.
  • Our spouses get pushed to the very bottom of our to-do list.
  • We spend all our energy on our kids, our jobs or other pressing demands so our spouses get the dregs of our energy.
  • When we do get some time together, we don’t know how to maximize it to get the most bonding out of it (I’m giving you the shifty side-eye Netflix).


  • Every night connect and talk with your spouse for 10 minutes (no screens allowed!)
    • We recommend and will be using the method outlined here:
      • Say the good stuff that happened that day
      • Say the not-as-good stuff that happened that day
      • Pray together
      • Kiss

Take the daily 10 minute connect challenge for busy couples! Each night this week, take 10 minutes to connect and talk to each other distraction free! Click through for more details!


  • Eye contact
  • Commitment
  • Comfy couch (optional)


  • Our spouses’ love tanks will be fuller as they feel more noticed, loved and appreciated.
  • We will feel more connected as we learn more about what they think about, care about, and their successes and failures.
  • We will become more united as a couple and this should lead to more intimate time together as well 😉

Raise your hand if you are in!!

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If you want to join along in our experiment, join our email list (scroll down- there’s an opt-in in the footer) and I’ll be sending out how its going for us as well as helpful reminders!

Or I would love it if you joined in the experiment and let us know how its going on our Facebook page!

Happy experimenting!

2 thoughts on “Quality Time Love Language Challenge

    1. Woo-hoo! Go Rebecca go! Totally better late than never- this challenge doesn’t have an expiration date!!

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