Prompt eight in our 14 Days of Love Letter series is to explain what your spouse has helped you accept about yourself.
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Prompt 8: What has your spouse helped you accept about yourself? How?
This prompt could be taken a few different ways. It could be taken to mean that you have a negative quality that your spouse has caused you to confront (my initial first reaction answer to this question was that Rich has caused me to confront my own vanity by being so non-worldly himself), but I didn’t really mean it in that way.
It also could be taken to mean you have something negative about yourself that your spouse has helped you to say, “Oh well! I accept that thing about me.” As in, “No need to change my faults!” kind of way. I didn’t really mean the prompt to be taken in that way either.
The way I intended it was to mean you have something positive about yourself that you maybe didn’t see before or didn’t see as something positive until your spouse helped to bring it to light.
This was all justification for me to brag about myself now.
No. Not really. 🙂
But I think Rich has helped me to accept that I am a hard-working person. One fault of mine is that if I’m left unchecked, I can obsess over my own productivity. Like I measure the day’s success by how much I got done (PS productivity is generally a TERRIBLE metric of success if you are a stay at home parent of three young children #doomedtofail).
Already not a great situation, but that’s not even the worst part. The worst part is that I have this obsession with productivity coupled with a crippling self-image of being a lazy person.
And that’s a bad combo. No bueno.
Rich has helped me to call my own bluff by acknowledging the things I do get done and encouraging me when I don’t keep my goals. He makes that little shoulder-devil of mine feel silly for being so hard on myself.
via Seminar Table
Basically, he not only is a good spouse, but he is a good friend to me. And he does what good friends do- he’s encouraging, supportive, and sympathetic.
Ok your turn! What has your spouse helped you accept about yourself? And how?
Remember, even thinking it in your mind can help fill your love tank. So even if you don’t comment- think about it! And if you are joining our monthly challenge, send the answer to your spouse in a text or email or note.
Oh! And I put all of the love prompts into a handy dandy printable so you can print it out, fill them out and give all the love letters to your spouse as a gift! Perfect Valentine’s day gift! Here’s a sample of the first page:
If you want the printable of all 14 days for your very own, just put your email in that little box and I’ll send it to you for FREE! (seriously imagine their face reading these love letters . . . )
Read last years 14 days of remembering to love prompts here.