Why Are You Married? (A Helpful Mindset For When You Forget)

Yesterday I was cooking with my kids. As my daughter spilled milk all over the table and the floor (and did in fact, cry over it), and my son flung hamburger meat all over the counter while “stirring” it for me, I paused and thought, “Why am I doing this? This would be easier without them.” Upon reflection, I remembered that I want my kids to love cooking. I want my kids to eat dinner and helping with cooking helps (or at least that’s what people keep telling me . . .). I want my kids to eventually be able… Read More

Are You Focusing on Your Spouse’s Attributes or Flaws? (how to flip the switch)

My marriage has undoubtedly improved since starting this blog. In so, so many ways. I can remember living and reacting from a place of fear before where now I have peace. Peace gives room for love. I’m coming closer and closer to loving Rich unconditionally – I can definitely feel that shift. I’ve been trying to break down exactly WHAT has changed or what mindsets have helped me the most. Certainly, I have had countless light-bulb moments while reading, researching, writing and thinking about marriage. But what is it exactly that created the shift from conditional love to unconditional love?… Read More

Saving a Marriage From Divorce

Saving a Marriage From Divorce | The best articles on coming back from infidelity and the brink of divorce.

Can a marriage be saved from the brink of divorce? What would that even look like? I’ve collected stories and advice for couples hoping to save their marriage from divorce. When someone signs up for my email list, they get a little welcome email which asks them to respond back stating something they are currently struggling with in their marriage. I get quite a few of these emails each week. At first I was surprised to find how many of these emails expressed marriages in dire straights- on the brink of divorce, dealing with things like infidelity, addiction, abuse, etc.… Read More

Do I Need My Anger?

Do I Need My Anger? Anger can be a great spark to incite action, but clinging to it can poison you. Click through to read more

Recently it was my choice to pick our monthly book for my book club. I chose Loving What Is. Shocker I know. Not everyone loved it, which is totally fine because truth be told,  I don’t love the writing style and I find the tone a little pandering. BUT the ideas in it are golden. Golden I tell you! I can’t tell you how much this book has helped me (I mean, I’ve tried . . . and tried). But anyway, in our conversation during this book club, several people took issue with the book because wouldn’t loving what is… Read More

Using The Color Code Personality Test to Understand Your Spouse

Color Code Personality Test | Understanding your partner's motivations, strengths and limitations is key to any relationship. Click through to read more.

I first encountered the Color Code personality test in high school at a church camp. After we each took the test, we made little felt people in our color and made them into necklaces to wear all week in an attempt to get to know each other and serve each other better. Sometimes I wish everyone I meet would wear these little colored necklaces so I would better be able to tell what their strengths, limitations and most importantly, motivations are.  Understanding each other’s personalities and motivations help any relationship, but especially a marriage!  Megan Christensen is here today to… Read More