Category Archives: To do

Want Your Life to Be More Magical?

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Have you ever had those moments in life that feel so transcendent that you can only describe them as other-worldly? As magical?⠀ ⠀ When I write something that I know didn’t come from me. When my baby looks at me and I allow myself to be swept up in the magic of an infant. When someone tells me that something I said changed their life for the better. Watching one of my kids gain the confidence that comes from mastering a new skill. Those family moments where everyone is laughing or playing together and time seems to go on slow… Read More

46 Loving Acts Guaranteed to Turn Your Partner’s Frown Upside Down

The topic of the month is service here at Marriage Laboratory, and the challenge of the month is to ask your spouse what loving acts you can do for them each week and then do it. But what if your spouse (like mine) can’t think of anything? Or says something like, “Maybe keep the door closed when you’re going to the bathroom?” (. . .happened to a . . . friend of mine . . . .) Or what if your spouse had a hard week and you’re just looking for a way to make them smile again? Then why… Read More

6 Resources for Spicing Up Your Marriage in the Bedroom

If we want to spice up our marriage in the bedroom, gaining new information is crucial! Whether its changing damaging mindsets that are holding you back or just getting some new tools and ideas to change things up- knowledge is power! These are all resources that have helped us. In a recent post, I mentioned four sex books I’ve read and recommended. I’ve gotten a lot of emails and questions about these, so I thought I’d offer more information on those as well as including a few more resources we’ve found helpful. 31 Days to Great Sex Are you sick… Read More

What Would Happen if You Had Sex Every Other Day For a Month? (PHYSICAL TOUCH Love Experiment Re-cap)

What happens when you have sex with your spouse every other day for a month?  Good things. Good things happen. This post contains affiliate links. We just wrapped up our love experiment for the month- having sex every other day. This challenge is based on Gary Chapman’s book The Five Love Languages, specifically the physical touch love language. Time for a re-cap! Of all the love experiments we’ve done so far this year (connecting for 10 minutes everyday for quality time, sending a loving text/note everyday for words of affirmation and giving a gift every week for gifts), this one… Read More

YOUR Sex Questions Answered (by a sex therapist) Part I

In preparation for this post, I asked you what you, my readers, are struggling with regarding sex, and passed those struggles along to Aimee Heffernan. Aimee, who is a licensed couples therapist and sex therapist who lives and works in Washington, was kind enough to answer a number of your questions last year (Part One and Part Two). In preparation for our interview, I sent her a list of your concerns to review. Right away we noticed some themes and will be talking about those themes instead of answering question by question. Desire Discrepancy First up- desire discrepancy.  Here are… Read More