Marriage Hack: Mastering Gottman’s Magic Ratio

Marriage Expert John Gottman is able to predict divorce with 95% accuracy with his magic ratio of 5:1 positive to negative interactions. Sounds like we should  learn how to cultivate more positive interactions. Our theme for the month is marriage hacks- helpful tips and tools for your marriage.  Recent posts: Marriage Hack:  Put Yourself Through Therapy  Marriage Hack: Write a Marriage Manifesto Marriage Hack:  Fill Yourself Up With Love This hack comes from John Gottman, king of marriage research.  Astonishingly and against all odds in social science, Gottman is able to predict divorce with 95% accuracy.  That does not happen in… Read More

Marriage Hack: Fill Yourself Up with Love

In our attempts to be the best spouse we can be, lets try filling ourselves up with love first.  Love then won’t be able to help itself oozing all over those around us. Our theme for the month is marriage hacks- helpful tips and tools for your marriage.  Recent posts: Marriage Hack:  Put Yourself Through Therapy  Marriage Hack: Write a Marriage Manifesto   In marriage we can often feel so consumed in feeling like our marital progress is being impeded by our SPOUSE. Filling our thoughts with fears and concerns about what our spouse is or isn’t doing for the… Read More

Marriage Hack: Write a Marriage Manifesto

This is my marriage manifesto- a set of 10 guidelines and aspirations I've written to remind myself to be the wife I want to be. Click through to read more.

In a nod to Gretchen Rubin, I’ve written my own 10 commandments for my marriage, or my marriage manifesto. Our theme for the month is marriage hacks- helpful tips and tools for your marriage. Last week’s post: Marriage Hack:  Put Yourself Through Therapy  I’ve recently gotten into this great podcast called Happier by Gretchen Rubin (author of The Happiness Project) and her sister Elizabeth. In it, Gretchen and Elizabeth talk a lot about manifestos, which are meant to be reminders of the life lessons you’ve learned and aspirations for who you want to become. These manifestos can be for one specific… Read More

Marriage Hack: Put Yourself Through Therapy

Write out your negative emotions and what you wish would be different, then ask yourself these four questions by Byron Katie. Our theme for the month is marriage hacks- helpful tips and tools for your marriage. Marriage Hack of the week:  Put Yourself Through Therapy When Your Spouse Bothers You Personally, I think everyone should go to a therapist at some point in their life.  It can be a very healthy place to process negative emotions so they won’t build up in unhealthy ways. But we don’t all have the money, time or inclination to go to therapy, so if… Read More