What Do You Want to Believe About Your Spouse? (Yes, You Get to Choose)

There is a person in my life with some psychological issues. I mean, we all have psychological issues, but for this person, her issues often render her incapacitated, unable to complete even the simplest of tasks. I have spent a good deal of time trying to siphon out what of this behavior is her illness and what is just her personality. If her incapacities are just her personality- that makes me much less enthusiastic about helping her. I feel taken advantage of. I feel like she should do more for herself and rely less on others. But then when I… Read More

10 Lessons I’ve Learned (the hard way) in 10 Years of Marriage

10 years. Rich and I have been married 10 years! That’s the same amount of time it took Einstein to come up with E=mc2. That’s how long it took Julia Child to write Mastering the Art of French Cooking. That’s how long it took to create the Brooklyn Bridge. And that’s how long psychology professor John Hayes says it takes to become an expert at something. How fantastic. On this momentous occasion (and since I am now a marriage expert!), I thought I would take it upon myself  to bestow upon you 10 years worth of my hard-earned marital wisdom. Or rather,… Read More

4 Ways I Unintentionally Harm My Relationship: A Review of Jennifer Finlayson-Fife’s Relationship Course

Before we dive in here I want to let you, my readers know how much I value you. I try to listen to your emails and comments and let your ideas dictate my post topics. And I don’t try to sell you junk. Although, I could. Last week I was offered $200 to promote an electric razor in a post. These opportunities come frequently- whether its a mattress or pizza rolls or various other products. But I don’t pitch those products in my posts because I know it wouldn’t bring you, my readers any value whatsoever and I care about valuing the… Read More

The Dangerous Myth of Finding Your “Soul Mate”

Assuming that successfully finding your soul mate will set you up for marital bliss will potentially doom your marriage before it even starts.   Happy to say that Rob from Family: Good Things is back in all his guest-posting glory.  Check out his previous posts here, here and here.  And while you’re checking out things, go ahead and check out his e-book  (3 Things You Can Do Today to Create a Ridiculously Happy Marriage)!   Some of you won’t like what I have to say here. In fact, if you consider yourself “a romantic”, this article might initially anger you.… Read More

5 Easy Ways to Support Your Spouse in a Healthy Lifestyle

Sometimes we unintentionally sabotage our spouse’s health ambitions.  By figuring out the root of unhealthy habits, leading by example, making it fun, and being patient you’re well on your way to supporting your spouse’s healthy lifestyle. By Paige Johnson I am so happy Paige reached out to me with this guest post.  The balance between genuinely helping your spouse to be healthy and nagging them (which breeds resentment) is a fine line, and Paige’s suggestions are on target for being helpful instead of judgmental.  Paige blogs for LearnFit.org.  If you’re interested in learning how to make fitness work with your lifestyle,… Read More