The song “Every Breath You Take” by The Police was a classic slow song favorite at every middle school and high school dance I attended. My friends even had it as their wedding song.

But have you actually paid attention to the lyrics? “Every step you take, every move you make, I’ll be watching you.”  Creeeeeeeper. Even Sting admitted it was a creepy song about surveillance, but the song sounds so nice and romantic you don’t think about it.

Well, that’s why we’re here! (you’re welcome)

We are talking all about trust in this week’s episode (the guy in the song had some serious trust issues) and we are THRILLED to welcome our guest – marriage and family therapist Aimee Heffernan to the show! I was so grateful she came on because, admittedly I have not done the topic of trust justice on this marriage blog of mine because, well, it’s just not my area of expertise and I never know what advice to give to people on the topic.

So, a HUGE thank you to Aimee who is giving us a lesson on Trust 101 – how to build it, how to re-build it when its broken and how to keep it going strong.

As always, Rich greatly improves upon the lyrics in his karaoke version (his lyrics written below.

Show Notes:

Aimee’s website: www.aimeeheffernan.com 

Rich’s lyrics:
“Every secret you’d keep
Every time you were a creep
Every night I lost sleep
Every time I’d weep
I stopped trusting you

Now every single day
Every honest thing you say
Every meaning we make
From every mistake
I start trusting you
Oh now you see
We need honesty
And my poor heart aches
But we learn from mistakes

Every day consistency
In everything– transparency
Every boundary
Is a chance to see
That I’m trusting you.

(all falsetto)
Since we talked, and agreed on what to do
About behaviors that can not con-tin-ue
I know that nothing can wipe out what has passed
It will take time but I think this can last
Let’s keep on working, baby, you and
Meeeeeeee”

And in case you want to relive this very romantic slow song favorite, I’ll leave this right here: