What is the most important quality in a spouse?
What were some of the qualities you were looking for in a partner when you were dating?
Most of us were looking for someone who was attractive, smart, kind, funny.
These are great qualities, but what is the MOST important?
We are making the argument that the most important quality in a spouse is the ability to self-confront.
Why? What does that look like? We are going to talk about that as we give some therapy to the song “Hold the Line” by Toto. Rich is going to make an important addition to Toto’s classic list of what love is in his karaoke re-write.
Rich’s re-written lyrics
It’s not in the way that you hold meThough that is a thing I do enjoy
You demonstrate so many great qualities
That make it clear you’re a great match for me
But it’s in the way you act when you’re faced with the hard things for you
All the time
You self-confront and that’s just fine
Makes it eas-y to call you mine (oh oh oh)
All of us have our own problems girl
It’s not unique to me or you ooooooh
But you MANAGE your feelings, don’t externalize the blame
You’re self accountable but don’t spiral into shame
It’s a great way to act when you’re faced with the hard things for you
All the time
You self-confront and it’s just fine
Makes it ea-sy to make call you mine
It’s not in the words that you told me, girl
It’s not in the way you say you’re mine, ooh
It’s not in the way that you came back to me
It’s not in the way that your love set me freeIt’s not in the way you look or the things that you say that you’ll do