Whether it’s ruminating on past relationships or romanticizing the past of your current relationship, it can be difficult to let go of the past.
Yet, if we are to fully enjoy and appreciate our present relationship as it is right now, letting go is a necessary action.
In this Christmas episode, we offer some therapy to the song “Last Christmas” by Wham as we talk about three rules for letting go of past relationships as well as well as two steps to appreciating your relationship and partner as they are RIGHT NOW instead of longing for the past.
This poor guy in the song seems awful hung up on his past relationship, despite have found “real love” in the present.
Don’t worry, we marriage theraoked him right up, and Rich’s breathy song re-write is sure to make your Christmas merrier (and healthier).
Rich’s re-written lyrics:
“At last, distance, I’ve made a new start
Cause I realize hey: moving on is the way
The fix here, to save me from tears,
I’ll focus more on the present
It’s a bad system, and bad for your heart
When you can’t move on, and just say okay
This here, is just being weird
I’ll move on and be inten’tional
One Christmas she made me cry.
Emotional distance is the better thing to try.
Tell me baby,
True things didn’t work out
But I’m moving on, and won’t be a jerk now.
(Don’t fixated on the past)
I really would regret it
It’s good to move on – we should def’nitly forget it.
Now I know I can honor things that have been
Without trying to relive them again.
At last, distance, I’ve made a new start
Cause I realize hey: moving on is the way
The fix here, to save me from tears,
I’ll focus more on the present
It’s a bad system, and bad for your heart
When you can’t move on, and just say okay
This here, is just being weird
I’ll move on and be inten’tional
Here’s my tips for girls OR guys
(fast) Don’t compare what you have to the PAST it’s not wise
Really think about, what-makes-your CURRENT partner special
Me? I’m gonna-make THIS relationship successful
It’s the holiday season, so help it along
Don’t fixate on the past or sing these weird non-Christmas songs
…
Now let get back to the chorus, and sing it again
At last, distance, I’ve made a new start
Cause I realize hey: moving on is the way
The fix here, to save me from tears,
I’ll focus more on the present
It’s a bad system, and bad for your heart
When you can’t move on, and just say okay
This here, is just being weird
I’ll move on and be inten’tional”
And if I must, I will leave this music video. Although, if it is Christmas cheer you are looking for, look elsewhere 😉