Introducing our love experiment for February as well as our 14 days of love letters challenge.
Alright, it’s time to introduce our Marriage Laboratory Experiment of the Month (MLEM if you like- you can remember it because it sounds like phlem).
This year all our experiments are based on Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages book and February will be all about . .. . . .
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION!
Here’s the experiment explained scientific method style:
- We feel disconnected from our spouses when we forget to make an effort to connect.
- Studies have shown our positive to negative interactions should be at a ratio of 5:1 for a healthy relationship, and we need a way to ensure we keep the ratio on the positive side.
- Our spouses feel unloved when we forget to show we appreciate them.
Experiment Method: Send our partner a nice text or email or note every day.
- a phone or computer or pen and paper.
- grateful heart
- Our spouses love tanks will be fuller as they feel more noticed, loved and appreciated
- We will notice more of the positive things our partner’s do instead of focusing on the negative
If you want to join along in our experiment, join our email list (scroll down- there’s an opt-in in the footer) and I’ll be sending out how its going for us as well as helpful reminders every week.
Or I would love it if you joined in the experiment and let us know how its going on our Facebook page!
Also, as part of the words of affirmation challenge, I will be posting everyday for the first 14 days of February (until Valentine’s day) answering one of these love letter prompts:
- When did you first know they were the one for you? How?
- What is a skill they’ve developed this year they should be proud of?
- What makes your partner different from anyone else in the world?
- When was a time they made you blush? (in a good way)
- Tell how they make you feel good about yourself (be specific).
- What is something your partner does that you think is sexy?
- When is a time you were very proud to be married to your partner?
- What have they helped you accept about yourself? How?
- What are a few little things they do that just make you smile?
- Describe a date you’ve been on together when you had a lot of fun.
- If you could go back in time to a down-on-their-luck young version of your partner, what would you tell them about how awesome they turn out?
- What is a quirk your partner has that you find endearing?
- What is your favorite memory with your partner this past year?
- What one thing could you do today to make your partner happier?
These would make for great prompts for your daily text/email/note, OR the compilation of these love letters would make for a GREAT Valentine’s gift!
We did the same thing last February with different prompts and great success. Filling out love letter prompts everyday filled me with all sorts of butterflies and mush.
See you in February!